Lightlend, any divorced woman with kids is almost next to impossible to get marry again in China, and she is with a mix-blood. It looks to me she is pushing you, she might just not thinking right, for her, divoce is lose cause.
I have a feeling she is spoiled child, without consider her family wealth, i make no conclusion.
True. The money is put in red envelope. It's also a custom.
p.s. Silly me, I didn't read daughter (left to you) part closely. One attemp to solve problem is to contact parents-in-law. Probabaly need a translator. Unlike other cultures, Chinese parents influnce their child's decision in great deal.